A Tribute to my Dad

I was inspired after reading Dr. Haykin’s blog tribute to his father. In this day and age, there are many people who harbour bitterness towards their fathers. Some hate their father. When friends and colleagues share their sorrow and pain as a result of their experiences with their fathers, I am in shock. My experience with my father is antithetical to these experiences. My father is one of my greatest role models for godliness and manhood. My sorrow is that I fall short of his example in so many ways. Below I have listed ten things I have learned from my father…

1. Be patient. My father is a man of infinite patience; when I was a boy working with him on a project around the house, he seemed to be more interested in me learning how to do something than the job actually getting done. No matter how many bent nails, sloppy paint jobs or badly cut wood, he patiently nudged me along to do a better job next time. I am convinced I became a teacher because he taught me patience. Both my brother and sister are also teachers.

2. Do what is right: the means justify the end. My father was interested in doing things the right way, not just get the job done. Doing what is good is better than getting good results by whatever means. What a lesson!

3. Love wisdom. My father is a wise man; O to be wise like him!

4. Never be hasty. Me thinks my father is a distant relative of Treebeard from Lord of the Rings. He would never commit to a decision over the phone. If the answer is needed right away, the answer would be “no.” He took time to decide anything, and many bad decisions were avoided and good decisions were made as a result.

5. Be honest, be sincere. In my recollection, my father has never lied nor broken a promise made.

6. Treat everyone with respect, no matter the age, no matter the education, no matter the economic status, whatever.

7. Be fair.

8. Love God. My father’s relationship with God is a private and personal one. It is also a supremely important one, the source of his strength and his goodness.

9. Love and serve the church. My father has worked tirelessly to serve the body of Christ. He still serves tirelessly.

10. Persevere.

To be such a man, may God give me the grace.

Irrigating Deserts: On Education

The modern age is defined by reason; our culture shuns emotionalism. The mantra for modern education is to teach students to ignore their hearts and think with their heads. In some ways, this approach seems right. As an educator, my experience with young people is that they can be very sentimental, if not down right silly at times. But I think educators toss out the baby with the bath water. We ought not to counter silly emotions by eliminating the importance of emotions all together. As C.S. Lewis writes, “The right defence against false sentiments is to inculcate just sentiments.”

The irony is that we have elevated “reason” so high in our culture, that it has no practical application. We often distinguish “book learning” from real life experiences. Modern students are unable to make the applications from book learning to real life experience because education has sought to limit learning to the mind alone. But life is mind, body and soul. Except for the occasional Scrabble game or cross word puzzle, book learning doesn't seem to apply to living. Students are making life decisions based on their limited life experiences, rather than gleaning from the collective experiences of humanity found in books. So although we have taught our students not to be swayed by sentimentalism, they still do extraordinarily dumb things. As Lewis writes, “A hard heart is no infallible protection against a soft head.”

If we want our students to “care” about learning, we need to put the heart back into the picture. I am not calling for warm and fuzzy, touchy feely, mushy gushy stuff: the “how does this poem make you feel?” sort of thing. Rather, how does this poem teach you to live—mind, body and soul? Lewis calls it the “chest”—“the head rules the belly through the chest, the seat of Magnimity, of emotions organized by trained habit into stable sentiments.” Not random emotions, but rather organized and informed emotions.

We need to awaken the hearts of our students to not only love learning, but to love life well lived.

“For every one pupil who needs to be guarded from a weak excess of sensibility there are three who need to be awakened from the slumber of cold vulgarity. The task of the modern educator is not to cut down jungles but to irrigate deserts.”—C.S. Lewis

(All quotes taken from C.S. Lewis’s “Men without Chests”, The Abolition of Man.)